It's Time to Let Go.
Some things serve their purpose but then linger past usefulness. All they're waiting for is a thank you and a graceful way to exit. Give them what they want and say a respectful goodbye.
What happens when half of you is super dedicated, super committed, and super ready to move forward - and to be the person who’s ready to receive the thing you want next - but the other half of you stands in the way?
The act of standing in the way includes, but is not ever limited to:
doing the dishes instead of ______________
binging an entire season of a show instead of ______________
staying up super late doing not much of anything instead of ______________
staying in bed all morning instead of ______________
playing on your phone for several hours instead of ______________
You have three choices. You can fight your other half and call it names and demand that it just knock it’s sabotaging shittiness the fuck off. You can roll your eyes and shrug and just say it is what it is and maybe even giggle a little over the cuteness of its insidious little ass. You can figure out how it’s trying to help you - in all its misguided glory - then acknowledge its efforts and thank it for being so thoughtful.
The fight will make it stronger. The more you fight against your inner rebel, the more practiced it will get at fighting back. The harder you push it away, the harder it will push back. The more you try to shame it, the more stubborn it will become.
The part of you that stands in your way is doing so for a reason. It loves you. It thinks it’s helping you. Protecting you. Keeping you safe. Making sure you do what you learned to do when you were very little what it takes to be loved. To be cared for. To know comfort.
Rolling your eyes at your self-sabotaging part is a decent first step. It will eventually lead to acceptance instead of so much guilt and shame, because you do have flaws. You struggle with what seems so easy for everyone else. Then you realize, everyone else is struggling and that’s okay. You are human. You can let go of some guilt and shame. Phew. Sigh. Shrug.
That’s a really good starting place. But it’s not where you want to stay.
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